How to be sexy? You want to be sexy, but you don’t know-how.
Being sexier is about more than just looking the part. It’s also about feeling confident and knowing what turns you on.
We’re here to help with our guide to being a sexy girl. Inside, you’ll find tips on how to look and feel your best, as well as advice on how to embrace your sexuality and have some fun along the way.
Tips on how to be sexy
Want to step your game up in the bedroom? Here are some tips you need to follow if you want to act like you know you’re worth it.
Be confident in your skin. What you think of yourself is much more important than what others think about you.
If you walk into that room thinking that nobody can touch you you’ll be much more likely to keep that frame you’re giving off.
Your sex appeal is 100% you. It’s been said you should be comfortable in your skin if you want someone else to be comfortable in their skin with you, and you definitely do.
Make eye contact
Make sure you make good, strong eye contact with your partner. Eye contact is a fantastic way to communicate and connect with someone you’re trying to get close with.
If you keep on averting your gaze you’ll look like you don’t know what you’re doing and that you’re unsure of your sexuality.
Your partner will feel like you don’t know what you’re doing if you can’t even meet their gaze.
Dress to impress
You definitely don’t want to walk into that room wearing your baggy t-shirt you’ve had since you were 14 (or you know, the one you sleep in).
Instead, wear something tight-fitting and flattering. It will only accentuate your curves which you should have worked out beforehand. You’ve got this!
Wear red clothes
Wearing red is a fantastic way to show you’re confident in your sexuality and you’re ready to have some fun.
It’s also scientifically proven that it makes you more attractive and can attract the opposite sex so you’ve got two reasons to wear the shade.
Wearing red clothes will make you feel sexy and you’ll be using scientific facts to prove you’re sexy.
Stroke your hair
We’ve all been told that you should never play with your hair when you’re in a fragile state but have you ever heard of playing with your hair for pleasure?
Playing with and stroking your hair is actually really sensual and enjoyable and you’re making you feel sexy.
Wrap your arms around your neck or run your fingers through your hair, you’ll thank us later. Men find this incredibly sensual and you’ll notice the difference.
Focus on your career
The way you look is incredibly important to feel sexier but don’t let it rule your life.
You should always try to look your best but you need to be confident in your career too if you want people to see you as sexy.
Being successful makes you feel sexier because you’re doing it all by yourself, you’re sexy for not having to rely on anyone else.
Show off your best assets
You probably know what you look like naked better than anyone else you’re about to get close with.
That means you should definitely show off the things you’re most confident in and you think you look best in.
If you’re busty then wear a revealing top, if you have legs that go on forever then show them off in your favorite mini skirt.
There is nothing sexier than someone who knows what their best assets are and you don’t have to worry about anyone else knowing you know if you keep them to yourself.
Always, always make sure you’ve got a pleasant scent.
You don’t want your partner to be turned off as soon as you walk through the door so you should definitely invest in some long-lasting perfume or you can even wear natural oils such as lavender and jasmine if you prefer.
Last but not least you should own yourself. Instead of worrying about how you look, you should be focusing on what you’re about to do and how you can make it as fun as possible.
Smile, move your body in a sensual way, show off your curves but most importantly have fun! As long as you’re having fun, nobody else really matters.
If you’re feeling confident you’ll look confident and you probably will walk away with a good time.
Remember, the bedroom should be fun so you want to make sure you’re enjoying yourself as much as possible. If you follow these tips you should have no problem walking out of that room looking like you know what you’re doing!
Sexy body language
You can also make yourself seem much sexier by the way you position your body. Always keep your back straight and your chest out.
As a woman, you should always keep your legs together and you should be careful not to cross them!
You don’t have to be in top physical form, you just need to make sure you are staying active.
It’s always good to make your partner want you even more by keeping yourself looking nice and healthy. This will also increase their satisfaction with you!
Smile and be positive
When you first walk into that room you should be grinning as you’ve just won the lottery.
This will take away any nervousness you might have and you’ll look relaxed and confident.
You should also let your partner know you feel good and you’re having a great time as this will make them feel as though you aren’t nervous or you’re just putting on a front.
Your sense of humor is sexy
Laughing and smiling every day is always sexy you’ll feel as though you’re really enjoying yourself and you won’t seem fake or pretentious.
You should never laugh at what your partner says, you should laugh with them and make sure you’re looking at them when you do it.
Things like witty comebacks you should try to avoid unless you’ve got a great sense of humor.
This will also keep you from being too serious and you’ll appear sexier if you’re not trying too hard.
Have fun and let loose!
You should never walk into that room thinking you have to do things you don’t want to do or you’ve got an agenda you need to stick to.
If you don’t like it you can always stop, but you’ve been wanting this for so long you might as well enjoy the ride you’re on.
Let your partner know you’re enjoying yourself and you want them to have a good time too, but don’t go overboard!
Try new things you know you’d like and you’ll be able to keep your mind on what you’re doing and you won’t have to worry about looking for excuses for why you don’t want to do it.
Give them what they want
Your partner deserves the best you can give them as you should never underestimate the power you have in that room.
Make sure you take charge and make your partner feel as though their pleasure is your pleasure too.
For many people, giving head can be a bit off-putting for you but you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do!
Generally, you need to make sure you’re doing it right and you’ve got plenty of saliva running down your throat.
Make sure you let your partner know you’re enjoying yourself too!
Don’t go overboard!
You need to make sure you aren’t pushing things too far, but you should do everything in your power to push the boundaries you’ve set.
Make sure you don’t overstep the mark you’ve drawn for yourself. There is no need to be pressured into doing anything you’re not comfortable with. You should always bear in mind what you are comfortable with and stick to it!
You might want to think about making an agreement with your partner so you both know where you stand.
Last but not least, you should have fun! You should make your partner’s experience a good one.
Remember, this is a special opportunity. Have fun and enjoy it!
Be flirty and playful
Be flirty and playful as you never know you might end up enjoying yourself as much as you thought you would.
You should definitely give your partner a massage from time to time as you can never go wrong with a bit of touchy-feely.
Be honest about what you want
Don’t be shy. If you don’t like doing something you need to speak up and say it. Nobody’s perfect, including you!
Never fake your own orgasm just to make them feel better as you’re going to let them down and you’ll end up resenting your partner.
You should also never do things you don’t want to just because you think that’s what you’re supposed to do.
If you are uncomfortable with something you need to speak up no matter how awkward it might feel.
Make him work for it!
Don’t just let him have you whenever he wants. Make him work for it!
Never be afraid you’re going to send your partner into a full-blown panic attack you need to remember this is supposed to be fun!
You should also make sure you know what you are doing before you do it. It’s never sexy to look like you don’t know what you’re doing.
Expose your wrists
Expose your wrists and you’ll appear weaker and more vulnerable. The last thing you want to do is come across as a threat.
When you expose your wrists you’re making yourself look more fragile and you’re giving them a cue that you want them to take control over you.
Show them, not because they’re attractive. Rather, it’s because your wrists have glands that send pheromones out into the world.
The bottom line
If you want to be a sexy girl, it starts with your mindset. You have to know that you are worth it and deserve the best life has to offer.
It’s not about what other people think of you or how many followers or likes on social media. Instead, focus on being happy in your own skin and feeling confident no matter where you go.
Read articles like this one for tips on improving self-esteem and body image as well as style advice from fashion designers who really get us girls!
Medically reviewed and approved by Clinical Psychologist and President of PsicoLuz Integral Psychology Luzmery Romero.